How Embarrassing is Online Dating?

3 March 2010

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Dating in the 21st century has become rather less problematic than even some 30 years ago. In the past your options were depressingly restricted. Either you met your perfect match and dream partner by chance, or you didn't at all. Ironically, many people are still stuck in the same situation, not realizing that they are able to rely less on fate and more on modern technology to extend their options and take matters into their own hands. If you are lonely, frustrated and disillusioned with ever finding Mister or Miss right, you now only have yourself to blame.

Of course not all the modern ways of finding a partner are created equal. You may, like most decent people, find some of these methods to be somewhat embarrassing and compromising. Anonymous newspaper ads, for example. Or perhaps you could register with a matchmaking agency. The problem with both these routes is that you lose your privacy and anonymity the moment you are put in touch with a "suitable" candidate. Since you still know very little about any candidate, you are again at the mercy of fate, let alone the discretion of the other person. More blind dates. More rolling of the dice. Further embarrassment and lack of control. Stalkers and other dodgy people are just some of the characters you may unwittingly invite into your personal space.

Of course, the alternative of hanging out in bars and clubs can be equally frustrating, not to mention damaging to your bank balance. These environments are hardly conducive to meaningful conversation anyway, so there is a lot of trial and error and awkward breakfasts to be had.

Fortunately, there is a sane alternative at last. The Internet has brought us dating options that are significantly more palatable and discreet.

At first glance, you may think this is just an online version of the personal ads you'll find in any newspaper - the notion that you have a look at other people's ads and can post your own. Yet, this is where the similarities end.

In a newspaper, you get a close to meaningless, brief profile of a person. If you want to know more, you will have to get paper and pencil ready, or commit yourself to a telephone call and by doing so, surrender your privacy. In contrast, a sincere, online personal ad, handled by a trustworthy service, provides extensive profiles of all its members. These include looks, attitudes, personality traits, desires, values and beliefs, to name a few. Also, each person has the opportunity to comprehensively describe who he or she is looking for. Often, there are photos available. So you can get a complete impression of a person, before investing more time in a detailed check of him or her. All these features offer the browsers of online dating services a far better idea of compatibility and of whether it is worth investing more time in getting to know the person or not. You could say that Internet dating services combine the upsides of both newspaper-based personal ads and expensive dating agencies and do so in a manner that allows you to control the level of privacy and commitment along the way.

When you use an Internet-based contact service, you can communicate with other customers without having to expose privacy sensitive details to them, like your real name, your telephone number or your email address.

In the early stages of checking somebody out, you can communicate through the online service's messenger system, and keep your anonymity and privacy intact. Should you decide, after a couple of messages back and forth, that the matter is not worth pursuing any further, you may simply end the communication and block further messages. You can be sure that you won't be haunted by unsolicited phone calls or future harassment. All your energy can now be channelled into your real aim: to find a truly compatible partner.

So ask yourself which is more embarrassing: to scan bars and clubs, to simply sit and hope you get invited to yet another party, to resort to the potentially sleazy and dangerous process of advertising in the classifieds, or to submit to an extensive one on one interview with a partner agency route hoping that they might glean enough about you to match you with someone decent?

Online contact and dating services are inexpensive, hassle-free, private and, most of all, puts you in control of your own privacy and destiny.

The only risk you take is in which online agency you choose.

Some of online dating services frequently abuse their customers' desire for a warm and giving relationship, by engaging in credit card fraud, compromising their members' privacy or other means of unethical behaviour.

You will find guaranteed respect for their customers, and highest quality service for you to "meet the one" at www.12meet.com Contact and Dating Service.

Customers at this site enjoy an excellent, ethical service, fast loading web pages and, in due course are bound to meet many super people. I know. I have been a member for some time. Chances are that, after a couple of months on this web site, you will find your proverbial needle in the dating haystack.

So, don't reconcile yourself to a life of loneliness and desperation. Find your soul mate and enjoy every moment on your way to that great event!


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